There were a few things I forgot to mention in my first trimester recap:
– I started having crazy dreams immediately after finding out I was pregnant! They were the weirdest, most vivid dreams I’ve ever had. I still have them, but they just don’t faze me anymore because they’re so frequent and I’m so used to them. Hormones are nuts.
– I don’t think I properly conveyed the level of exhaustion I experienced during the first trimester, but I was pretty constantly worn-out. I felt like I was recovering from a long run all the time. I never missed work or had to go home early because of it, though, thanks to the nap rooms my company provides!
At the height of my exhaustion, I’d visit the HR desk at lunchtime 2-3 times a week to check out a key to one of the three small rooms, take a 20-30 minute nap in the glorious pitch black, and then return to work feeling refreshed and energized. Thank goodness for the nap rooms!!! When I told my boss I was pregnant, she was like, “Oh, we have these nap rooms…” and I was like, “Trust me, I’m a frequent flyer.”
The nap rooms are located right across the hall from the mothers’ room, which is for breastfeeding mothers to pump. That’ll be my next stop when I go back to work after maternity leave…
Now, let’s talk about weeks 14 and 15 of pregnancy!
As soon as I entered the second trimester, I felt like a fog had been lifted. I became more alert, more productive at work, more energized when I woke up in the morning, and more likely to actually go work out. I went to the gym two or three times during week 14 to walk on the treadmill and lift weights. I also didn’t note any particular negative symptoms, cravings or aversions; I just felt pretty normal. Woo-hoo!!
Aaron and I made two major purchases that made this whole baby thing seem really real! He found a great 4-in-1 convertible crib (here’s the exact one – affiliate link) on Craigslist that we bought for $50. We brought it home in a bunch of pieces late on a weeknight and Aaron was so excited that he had it assembled within 15 minutes. Someone can’t wait to be a dad!
The next night, I came home to find a stroller sitting in our dining room! Aaron found a family selling their practically-new BOB Revolution stroller (affiliate link) — including a rain cover and cupholder attachment thingy — for well below what the whole setup costs new. I hadn’t even thought about researching strollers yet, but Aaron had already read a bunch of reviews, chatted with our parent friends, and decided on this model — and then one popped up on Craigslist the next day! Apparently the family is having another baby and wanted to buy a double stroller instead.
By the way, I really hate researching things and choosing the best thing to buy, so I’m thrilled that Aaron is into this. He also started an Amazon baby registry for us and put all sorts of things on it that I didn’t even know he knew about. I’ll mention things like a bottle warmer I used back in my babysitting days, and he’ll say, “It’s on the registry.” Dang, he’s on top of it!
Some of our parent friends added us to local buy/sell/trade groups and our neighborhood Buy Nothing group on Facebook so we can continue to be on the lookout for opportunities to find good baby stuff secondhand rather than buying them new or requesting pricy gifts. Other big nursery items we need — but aren’t in any hurry to find — include a dresser that can double as a changing table, and a comfy glider and ottoman.
We finished the week by celebrating Halloween at my friend Carly’s new grown-up house in the suburbs. It was a very tame pizza-eating, football-watching affair that was perfect for a prego who obviously had no interest in drinking and partying like the old days.
Aaron and I dressed up as chefs who were cooking up a lil’ lobster, in a nod to the lobster costume I wore five years ago the night we had our first kiss. 🙂
We had to change our photo location for the first time since we lost our weekday afternoon light due to the end of Daylight Saving Time, and our plan to take the photo over the weekend failed since the weather was horribly dark, windy, and rainy! So Aaron and I met up for lunch one day downtown (our offices are a 10-minute walk from each other — sweet) and snapped a quick one then. The bump is slowly emerging!
Again, I made it to the gym three times this week for walking and weights. I also started making a green smoothie every morning as a way to get more veggies into my diet since I still don’t love the idea of eating them by themselves. I blend the following to make a jumbo smoothie:
– Two handfuls of a spinach/kale/chard mix (we get a big one-pound bag at Costco)
– So Delicious coconut milk
– A scoop of egg-white protein, or a serving of Chobani yogurt
– A bit of canned pineapple along with some of the juice for sweetness
– Frozen fruit or ice — enough to give the mixture a smoothie-like texture
I don’t measure anything, so the smoothie turns out a little different every day, but it’s always delicious and masks the flavor of the greens just enough without being too sweet.
I also eat scrambled eggs for breakfast, and then have multiple snacks before lunch, and then have multiple afternoon snacks, and then dinner. Dinner nearly every night during week 15 was a grilled-cheese sandwich with pickles and a bowl full of sugar snap peas dipped in ranch dressing. Basically, pregnancy is my second childhood.
My pregnancy eating is a lot like my marathon-training eating in that it is constant, and therefore full of snacks. Unlike marathon-training eating, my pregnancy eating still somehow does not have me gaining much weight — my 15-week at-home weigh-in put me at one pound lower than my weight at four weeks pregnant (WTF) — but I know that’s about to change soon. Apparently the baby is doubling in weight every week at this point, so the lbs are going to hit me like a freight train. I’m ready and willing! Whatever it takes for this kiddo to grow healthy and strong.
Lastly, speaking of physical changes, I can feel my body parts slowly spreading out — particularly my hips. My right hip will ache if I stand or walk around too long, and I asked a mom about this recently: “Is this normal?” In one breath, she replied, “Yupanditgetssomuchworsejustwait.” Sweet. Nice knowing you, hips. I assume you’ll eventually find your way back with all the accuracy of a Mr. Potato Head assembled by a toddler.
That said, I’m really enjoying feeling fairly normal again and will be sure to savor this before my belly starts getting huuuuuge and I feel not-normal again. I’m so excited to hit 16 weeks pregnant — four whole months! — and yet feel such anticipation for our next big appointment, the anatomy scan, a whole month away.
I want time to slow down and speed up all at once. I can’t wait to hold our newborn baby, yet I fell asleep the other night worrying like crazy over how we’re going to raise this kid to be a smart teenager who doesn’t do dumb shit like participate in a high-school sexting ring (that is a CNN link, btw, not something unsavory).
The world is a scary place!!! How will I protect our kid from bullying and sexting and the Kardashians? How will I learn to let go of enough of my anxiety so I can let our kid fall and cry and make mistakes and not live too much of a coddled life?
I guess I will do everything one day at a time. Tomorrow, that just means trying to get some walking in, drinking my greens, eating plenty of snacks, and getting some rest. Come next spring, that just means feeding and holding and loving this baby with all of my heart. I can worry about manners and morals and an appropriate opinion of the Kardashians at a later date.
Deep breaths. One day at a time.